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Hello, hello, hello, my podcast people and thank you for joining me for yet another episode of my favorite online business podcast. If you are listening, if you are, let me put these on, watching, if you are tuning in on the day that this drops, it is Monday, November 2nd, welcome to November. We will skip to talk about how fast the year has gone because it just is what it is.
So interesting topic today and I'm going to run with it. Lex actually asked me about this, this topic. She asked me a question related to this topic earlier this morning and then I was watching Eat, Train, Prosper.
It's a podcast that I watch with Aaron Straker and hosted by Aaron Straker and Brian Borstein. These are so dirty. You folks listening don't know what I'm talking about.
I'm talking about my glasses. I put them on for the little intro and I'm taking them off to clean them. But I was watching that podcast during my Lyft, I Lyfted a few hours later and Aaron mentioned the same topic and I was like, well, that's going to be the episode.
So a little content creation tip for you folks. Don't fight your ideas. What do I mean? Listen, things will pop into your head and they will fall into your head.
Run with it, especially when the name of the game is longevity, right? If you are using online content, excuse me, if you're using content as part of your online business, you are going to be need, you are going to need to be making content for as long as you have that business, right? So when an idea comes, run with it, use it, lean in, make space for the next idea to fall into your head, right? Yes, you can write it down if you want because you're like, hey, whatever, I'm busy or whatever, but I promise you it's not, that idea is not going to hit the same way when you go to actually make it later. So just accept that and be like, okay, cool. I already have an idea for today.
I'm going to do this. Or if you don't have an idea, just fucking do the idea. Or if you're like, I don't have time, cool, then write it down and just accept, hey, when I go in to revisit this, it is not going to hit the same way and that's okay, but just accept that.
Okay. Um, but today we're talking about what to do when you don't want to do the things that you need to do. Right? You got something you have to do and you're like, but I don't know if I can do it.
We've all been there. That's called being alive. Right? So speaking of, we were at breakfast and, or having breakfast in, we weren't like out, we were just having breakfast and Lex asked me, she's like, I have a question for you.
And I was like, of course. She always has a million questions, but she was like, uh, do you ever wake up and look at the stuff that's on your calendar for the day and not want to do it? And I'm like, number one, ma'am, what type of question is this? What can I eat my breakfast? Number two, of course, every single day I wake up and think that cause I'm alive. You think that I want to walk that dog? No, no, I don't.
I was literally told that. I was like, I don't want to walk Moose ever. Every single day I wake up and I'm like, nope, I'm going to walk the dog.
Would I much rather just start my day and be inside? Yes. Yes, I would. But in the same vein, I love that dog.
Right. But I also came into the relationship with a cat for a reason. I'm a cat person, but I'm going to walk the dog.
It's every day. I have things that I don't want to do. And then I'd be doing them as it relates to at what Aaron was talking about on E-Train Prosper.
He was talking about in terms of, you know, specific to this that will relate specifically to this podcast, our podcast, this podcast, my podcast, he was talking about in terms of online business and he had a client onboarding that he had promised he would get done by the end of the day. And then he had to be out of the house for whatever reason, for like seven hours and he didn't get home till 10 p.m. And like the last thing that he wanted to do was that client onboarding. But he went and did it and he worked till like midnight, got it done and got it sent out.
And like, yo, this is being a responsible adult, walking that dog, sending out that client onboarding. It's being a responsible adult, right? So much of life is doing shit that we don't want to do. But, but, but, but, and I think this is the main reason that I actually want to record this episode.
I think there are two different levels or two different ends of the spectrum here and those ends of the spectrum really matter. So on the one hand, I'm trying, I'm looking at the camera now because I'm thinking like what's going to be on the correct side. I think that, I don't know.
On one side, we have kind of our baseline level and this is the stuff that we like don't want to do, but it's largely because it's out of our routine, right? Humans are not lazy at all. Humans are never lazy. We are efficient, right? And we were always trying to conserve energy, right? So to that, and it makes sense to me that things that are outside of our routine, things that are going to expend energy without a commensurate amount of energetic return, we don't want to do it.
That's fine. Right? So we have that side. On the other side, we have things that we hate with our whole entire soul, right? We put these things off for weeks and weeks and weeks.
And ultimately we like really don't care if they even get done. And we're probably only doing it because of the repercussions of not doing it, right? To me, identifying these kind of ends of the spectrum and having these two very polar opposites here is important because they guide our actions. So the things that we don't want to do simply because they're out of routine or the energetic return isn't there, the initial dopamine hit isn't there, fucking suck it up.
We know, but we just got to suck it up, right? Yes, I think that an action item here is that, oh, look, got Ruby in the background. An action item here is that I think we can, when able, we can be better at front-loading things, at least for me specifically. I know that front-loading definitely helps, like if I just eat the frog.
So I said earlier that I listened to Eat, Train, and Prosper because I was working out in the morning. I had been working out in the morning for quite some time and then work got really busy. And so then I started working out in the afternoon and it's just like, I'm not as excited to do it.
I really do enjoy working out, but it's so easy to be like, nah, not going to do it, especially now that it gets dark earlier. And I know this about myself, so I switched back to working out in the morning, front-loading the day, eat the frog. We need a better phrase than that.
It's a terrible phrase. Eat the frog, right? But we need to, I personally, we need a better phrase, but I personally know that front-loading things that feel like they may not have the same energetic return as just like scrolling on Instagram or like, in my case, scrolling on Reddit, I get it. Do those things first, right? Making a post, making yourself lunch, working out, meeting up with someone.
Those things are like, ah, put on a schedule, get it done first, right? The other end of the spectrum here, right? These are the things that we put off and we never want to do and we only do them pretty much because of fear of, you know, punishment, repercussions, consequences of not doing it. I think with these things, we got to figure out how to get rid of these things, right? And I'm primarily talking about, at least as it relates to this episode, right? Because we're an online business podcast. I'm primarily talking about things that are related to work because I think it's just the kind of the cleanest.
But yeah, this to me applies to every part of your life, relationships, where you live. If you're like, I fucking hate this. Let's figure out a way to get rid of that, right? I think it's a little bit funny.
Maybe we're not laughing. We're actually crying through the, you know, crying through, laughing through the tears here. But it's very possible that work as a whole fits into this category because we do be working because we want to be avoiding the repercussions of not working, which is like being destitute and homeless.
Right. So we're like, well, I guess I can work. Right.
But I do think that there are things that we would do. That's why I work for myself. There are things that you're like, yeah, I would do this.
And like, I enjoy doing it. But I think that, you know, there are certain things that kind of relate to work as a whole and working as much as corporate America would have you work. I think people want to work.
I don't think people are lazy. I think people want tasks. They want purpose.
But nobody wants to be working fucking 40 hours a week, especially on something that's not even theirs. Please. Please.
All right. But as it relates to like running your own business and kind of a step down from like, I don't be working at all. It's the things that, you know, the parts of your work or the clients that maybe you hold on to or the certain offers that you hold on to simply because you need the money, but they fucking kill your soul.
Right. At some point that was me and the entirety of PT. I was just like, I hate this so fucking much, but I don't want to have no money.
And so here I am. But I was miserable. And that's I'm not a PT anymore.
Right. I'm not a I'm not a practicing physical therapy, physical therapy. Well, I'm not a practicing physical therapist.
But I think when things fall into this category, they fall into this side of the spectrum. The ultimate goal should be to figure out how to get rid of them. And part of this process of getting rid of them might actually just be figuring out why you hate it.
I've done episodes about this of like figuring out, is it do you hate PT in general, let's say, or is it that you hate the paperwork? Is it the clients? Is it where you're working? Right. And getting really specific, like, what is it that I don't like? What is it that I hate? Right. Maybe as it relates to I got an itch here.
Maybe as it relates to relationships, I mean, you're going to therapy or maybe not even relationships as anything. You're going to, you know, therapy for yourself. Maybe you're going to couples therapy.
I don't know. I'm trying to cover my ass with like as many like action items here because I just feel like it, it feels, I don't want to say irresponsible, but I'm just going to say, cause that's the word that comes to mind. Like, it just feels irresponsible.
But like, if you hate it, get rid of it. It's just like a lazy suggestion. And I'm like, what can you do? What are there some actual action steps? And I think a very big part of that process is figuring out what exactly you hate, why you hate it, getting someone to, you know, be a soundboard for you working with professional around things.
Right. But the long and the short to me is ultimately that if you hate it that much, take that information and do something with it. Right.
Put the ball in motion to not have that thing, that person, that relationship, that whatever that task in your life in the same way. One thing I want to say, and I did a post about this the other, the other week. And it's something that my soccer coach told me many, many, many, many, many years ago.
It's just like crazy that I'm 41, almost 42. And I'm like, this is like when I was 17 and 18. But he said, two things you can control are your attitude and your effort.
And that has stuck with me. I'm like, yeah, it is. It's very, very, very true, especially when it comes to sport.
Playing volleyball, like there is nothing that you have the elements that are so involved. You can control your attitude. You can control your effort.
And I was like, yes, absolutely. And something that I really made a point to lean into this year, just bringing a good attitude to everything, especially those baseline annoying things that like you don't want to do, but you're going to do and you have to do things like going to an event or basically anything that involves interacting with other humans where I know you feel the same way. You're like, I like being around them, but I don't like being around them.
And I like being invited, but I don't want to put on my schedule and then when I have to go and it's like, fuck, but then you get there and you're like, oh, this was actually really nice. I'm skipping all that beginning bullshit and just being like, this is going to be good. And I'm taking a positive attitude into it because I have found that pretty much every time the events turn out really nice.
Right. So skip that initial bullshit. And at least I can at least show up neutral.
If positive showing a positive and being a positive, positive attitude is too much cool than at least just start with neutral. It makes things so much better, so much better. But if you go to the other side of the spectrum, that's the stuff that we're like, man, I just hate this.
And even afterwards, this is still the worst. This is like I have to gas myself up so much to even do it. And it's just like, I don't even fucking care.
I don't want it. That is information that is big information. And those things like you can't rally for them, perhaps, you know, it could be things that you maybe you used to be able to even, but the it's lost the payoff that makes it worth it.
That is really valuable information and you should use it right in business. In life, understand that the things that you enjoy, they can and will change, right? Because you know, this is an online business podcast. If we focus on the business side of things and things changing, the things that you enjoy doing at some point, they may stop bringing you joy, right? And maybe every time you see it on the calendar now, you're just full of dread and you will do it because it's you, but listen to that information.
Take that information in and look to do something about it. I have tried to take you folks along, you know, with me for my personal, my business journey, especially over the past two years as I really try to figure out, you know, what I want to be leaning into and doing. And some of the things I'm doing right now, I really enjoy, I really enjoy podcasting still.
I built that website for, I don't know if I told you on this podcast or if I told you on the other podcast, but I know I talked about it for sure on the other podcast, prompting curiosity, but I built a website for the company that my brother works for. I loved doing that. AI-assisted coding, it was so much fun.
Like, I love it. I'm loving running Proof 52, loving hosting my maestro meetings. I don't know if you know that song by, what is it, One-Eyed Willie? One-Eyed Willie? Something like that from Dumb and Dumber and he's like, it's an old dance, come back out and that little song, but that's what it feels like with my show meetings because I've had them forever and I never stopped liking doing them.
But I'm at a point where I'm like, I really, I'm really, really enjoying them, loving doing them. Granola has been super helpful in me rekindling this, this whole flame. If you don't know what granola is, I did an episode about it on my other podcast, prompting curiosity.
Figured link that, Courtney. Thank you. I don't know if I did a full episode on it.
I did an episode that was like my top AI picks, my top AI software that I use, my AI stack and that's one of them. But if you don't know, granola is an AI note taker. It is so fucking good.
It is just like, again, it made me like enjoy, I don't even take notes when I'm doing these meetings. I just let it, let it do its thing. Sometimes I'll take a note as I, as I'm going, since I write stuff down, but it is so, so good.
And the notes that it comes up with after it's so, so, so good. So I have a affiliate code, but it's free to use, but there's like another tier, but I use the free tier, but I have an affiliate code. I don't know if it actually does anything, but the free tier also works, but we can link that.
Thank you, Courtney. Thank you, Jojo. But I'm really enjoying the maestro meetings.
I recently wrote a bunch of website copy for a longstanding client and I really enjoyed that. I was like, this is great. You know, when you know someone so well, you're like, I can write this.
But yes, I would also just love to spend my days working on a 1986 Toyota 4Runner project car. Yes. And all that to say, I have tried to be transparent with the process that I've been going through and show you that what you want to do in your business and in life can and will change.
And I think it's really important to take the time to identify where your feelings land on that spectrum of like, this is just like routine annoyance. Totally fine. I'm just going to suck it up and do it to this other side of like, I hate this.
I think it's probably reverse. So routine annoyance. And then I totally hate this.
I want to I want to get rid of doing this. Those of you watching the video, if you're like, what are you looking at? I'm looking down at my shirt because I'm like, OK, this is how I'm going to be reading things. So like this is the side I should be putting my hand up because it's backwards in the camera that I'm looking at.
But anyway, what you enjoy, what brings you joy, what annoys you. Those things can and will change over time. Important in my opinion, to identify where your feelings land on that spectrum.
It's some shit you just got to do and you maybe don't want to do it. That's OK. Just suck it up.
In this case, if it relates to work, maybe you can automate these things. Maybe you can outsource some of these things. So, you know, it has to get done.
So bring your best attitude as well. I'm like, you know, I just get it done. And even if you're sort of neutral, it makes it that much better.
But I do think as an aside, as an action item, that some of these tasks that maybe are redundant tasks could be great use cases for AI and figuring out how to automate things with that. If you want to chat, hit me up. That'd be a fun new service to offer.
Just discussing what you might be able to automate in your business with AI. If you're sitting here being like, I hate AI, that's fine, then don't hit me up about it. Don't use it.
But if you listen to this and you're like, I wonder. I wonder if I could use AI with this. I think that'd be a really fun service to offer.
I'm like thinking about this like literally on the spot. But just hit me up because I haven't productized that yet. So just hit me up and let me know your thoughts around that.
But on the one hand, we got the some shit that you just got to do. Maybe you automate it, maybe you outsource it, but you got to get done. So at least bring your best attitude, at least be neutral, a neutral attitude.
The other stuff that you put off because you're like, I never want to do it. I fucking hate it. I absolutely dread it whenever I see it pop up.
You know, I'm only doing it to avoid the possible repercussions of not doing it. That is big information and big information. It is big, unsustainable to keep doing it.
So see what you can change. All right. That is all for today.
A little bit of a short. Actually, that's probably about the same time as most of them. Really enjoying this.
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