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MOTM #228: Relational Fuckery, Antidotes, and Minding Your Business with James-Olivia Chu Hillman

Monday, July 13th, 2020

I’ve got another brand new friend and if you haven’t heard of them already, it’s time you two finally connect. Podcast fam, meet James-Olivia Chu Hillman. 

James-Olivia is an incredible (and inquisitive) human—they/them pronouns only, please—who brings with them an official title of Relational Life & Leadership Coach, and a “passion for asking questions that make us squirm a bit and point us back to who the fuck we are and what we care about most.” Talk about a bio that gets right to the point! (I love it so much!!!)

If you've been listening to any of my past few episodes then you know that James-Olivia entered my life during a workshop two weeks ago, rocked my world, and now I'm STOKED to have them share their brilliance with you.

So, do whatever you've got to do to make yourself comfortable and then join me for a remarkable discussion about relational fuckery, contempt, empathy, punishment, supremacy culture, creating safety…and so much MOAR.

Get your brain ready, this episode is one for the record books. Don't say I didn't warn you.

In This Episode You'll Hear:

  • How James-Olivia navigates the world
  • Just, sustainable, “right relationships” and how to turn towards one
  • Relating WITH you and intentional word choice
  • Empathic listening
  • Empathy as a skill that can be learned
  • Do you want to take it on, or not?
  • Relational fuckery, and the attempt to “win” a relationship
  • White supremacy culture in corporations
  • Right to comfort and finding the antidote
  • How contempt figures in
  • How masculinity and femininity relate to vulnerability
  • Internalizing oppression
  • Perfectionism is the enemy to authenticity and intimacy
  • Using social media to cultivate relationships
  • Punishment, revenge, and dehumanization
  • Mind your business, and do what you came to do
  • Create safety for yourself

Links & Resources For This Episode:

Follow James-Olivia on Instagram: @inquisitive_human
Check out James-Olivia’s website for upcoming courses:
Support James-Olivia on Patreon
The article on White Supremacy Culture

Join the family!