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Hello, hello, hello, my podcast people. And thank you for joining me for yet another episode of My Favorite Podcast. If you're listening, watching, tuning in on the day that it drops, it is Monday, January 20th, and we're going to jump right into the episode. Cause I am sitting here in a bit of a state of cognitive dissonance, if you will, just because like 15 miles away from where I live, literally like out that window, there's massive dissonance.
Destruction. All right, talking about the LA fires, the Pacific Palisades fire, the Eaton fire. It's burned over like, I don't know, 53 or 56 square miles. That's a fucking lot, right? The Santa Ana winds are supposed to pick up again today, but not as bad as before. Um, and the first responders are just fucking amazing and on it.
And so like, it shouldn't, God willing, shouldn't like cause more terrible stuff, but it's not done. Right. You know, coming from the East coast, we have natural disasters, hurricanes, no earthquakes, right? We have hurricanes. And I was, uh, I was there for Sandy and. This is just so different because it just keeps going, right?
Like, with a hurricane, one, you know it's coming, and then it hits, and then it's done at some point, right? Like, this didn't know it was coming. There was a wind alert on Sunday night of last week that said that we were going to have big winds on Tuesday. And then a fire broke out. And before I knew it, Bree is staying here with Lex and me because her place had to get evacuated because the fire was, like, big.
So close, like in an, in an instant it happens and then it just keeps going. It just fucking keeps going. I'm hearing helicopters right now. Like it's nice outside. Like the, it's like kind of dusty though. Like I wouldn't like go running outside, but like the air, the air quality index, I didn't check it today, but it was good actually.
And like, it's a blue skies and the weather is nice and it's way different than what it was last week. Like it was like apocalypse. But I can see, you know, we could see where the fires were coming from. Like Jill and I had a legacy call last week and I, at the end of the call, I was like, Jill, can you see the fires?
Like, and she can actually see things from her place. Like it's a, it's a mindfuck. Right. You know, I'm super grateful and super fortunate. Lux and I live in a place, and Jill lives here too, where we've been in the white zone the whole time. Like the topography and where it is. And like, we're closer to the, like, Kind of like into the ocean, if you will.
And there's, there's no big mountains that we back up into or anything like that. It's like, we've been in the white zone the whole entire time. Uh, and because of that, we actually ran Lex and I ran our live event for lecture mind last Thursday and Friday. If you were there, thank you. People literally flew in as there's this virus going on and, you know, We kept it going because like, it's totally safe where we're at, which is wild because it's not that far, like 15 miles, but it is totally safe where we're at.
And as the, as the, as the event is going on, I'm literally like, we started the event off, you know, thanking them and I'm like, we are safe here. And at the end of the first day, like, you know, it's probably about an hour left to the first day, an alert goes off to all of our phones. And it says, prepare to evacuate.
And I'm like, this shit has to be a mistake. It's a, it's, it is a mistake and it was a mistake. They sent out an error, kind of my bad message afterwards. And I was like, that's really bad. But it really just kind of solidified that feeling of we're sitting here learning and you know, teaching about sales pages while people's houses are burning down.
Like, you know, and objectively, it's not wrong to be doing that because what's the alternative? I'm not going to be running into that fire. Sitting there and watching the news, which we actually were doing and checking. He's like, it doesn't change. That. All right. And so this is not an episode about me, like justifying, putting your head down and pretending that things aren't happening.
Not at all. Today, I want to talk about who do you help? Who should you help? When do you help? What does it mean? All right. Because I am the first, I will be the first to champion social media, but our access to information, the fact that we have so much information literally at our fingertips and like the pseudo connectedness.
that it creates can also be problematic, right? Suddenly you're exposed to tragedy and loss just like 24 7. Like if, if, if you could be exposed to it more than 24 7, then we would be, right? And our nervous systems are not designed for this. All right. We're not designed for that. And we're not designed for like the immediate high and low that we get, right?
It's like happy, sad, tragedy, learn something, celebrate someone all within the window within the span of five swipes of your thumb. And it's like, that is not What humans have evolved to be able to handle. And from that, the question to me comes like, are we supposed to care about everything and everyone?
What does caring look like? If you don't say something on social, does that mean you don't care? If you don't donate, does that mean that you don't care? And this, this question has come up a bunch. Like anytime there's a big event and I did an episode, I'm trying to remember which member, which one it was, but like.
I can't because it comes up a lot. Like if you're on social media long enough and you do this online business and long enough, things will happen that you, that directly affect you in a way that you like, I have to say something and you get to make that decision whether, whether or not you say something, but not saying something doesn't mean you don't care.
And also we can't care equally about all things, especially because of this like pseudo proximity that we have, where now something that happens around the world, we are immediately exposed to. And. You know, impact it, or, you know, we see it right there and, and, and, you know, faced with a decision of, do I do something, do I say something, do I think that it matters that wasn't a thing, however many years ago before social media, even if we just compare the size of, uh, you know, the United States to the size of Europe, right?
The United States is really fucking big. Something happening, uh, in, in here in California, like people on the East coast, if this was a time before social media and the kind of information, uh, connection that we have. People on the other coast wouldn't know. If it was Europe, people in other countries wouldn't know what was going on here.
Not right away, or however, you know, fast a messenger pigeon or whatever horse could go, but not in an instant. Right? And now we have that to grapple with. If you don't say something, do you not care? Are you a bad person? I donated to one place in Asheville because I had a friend there, but I didn't post anything about it.
Like, it didn't affect me and it wasn't like I don't care, but also like, yeah. I actually flew into Miami behind that fucking hurricane. Like my first donation here when the fires kicked off was to the Pasadena Humane Society. Y'all know like pets and animals. That's where my money's going. I donate to Lyff, L Y F F.
That's you see Rupert in the background there. That's where I got him from. Love your feral felines. And I donate to them probably every other month. All right. We live in a time where. You get to pick and choose who you help, which may mean that you ignore the homeless man in your neighborhood and send money to Australia to help out the burning koalas.
That's me, right? I'm going to say, this is what I did. Like a few years ago, Australia caught on fire and I was like, take my money. All right. And I don't think that this is a bad, I honestly think that it keeps us going and it keeps our hearts soft. And it gives us the skills to be able to help other people.
When needed. Right. The example I'm going to pull from social media, Blair Imani, uh, her family, she, her, she has her house, but her family lost their house in the Altadena fire. The, the, um, oh my gosh, the Eaton fire, but in Altadena and she did a thread and she, she wrote, I do not have the energy or capacity to organize for the broader community.
I'm focused on my family right now, and I'm trying not to feel guilty about it. And it's kind of like a wild statement. If you take a step back and you're like, why would you feel any kind of way? But it makes sense. And I would never say, Oh, you shouldn't feel guilty, but it makes sense why she feels guilty.
Everyone always feel your feels, but it makes sense because what she usually feels best doing is supporting and helping the community at large and putting content out. That's Smarter in Seconds and a book, Smarter in Seconds. That's how she feels called to help. But. Right now the situation calls for something else and she has the skills and the resources and the capacity to show up.
She can show up for her family because she has the resources. She has the house. Her house didn't burn down. All right. And she has the skills because this is what she does all the time for a living and she can show up for her family because the rest of the time she's showing up and helping the community at large.
All right. So, you know, circling back to the live event. How do we reconcile living our lives and perhaps going after our best lives while there are people who need help? And I think the answer which is the point if you will of this episode is help who you want in whatever way you can Just make sure that you help whoever you can In whatever way you want.
And yes, I am very much including animals in that. All right. I think that at some point we start to look at our lives and reflect on our lives, especially if there's obviously there's a big devastating event, but if there's a pause and we have a time to actually reflect on things. And we look at our lives, and in this case, as it relates to this podcast, we look at our jobs and we ask ourselves, Is this how I want to be helping people?
And you may feel like maybe you're not helping people. Or maybe you've, you're evolving. And you're like, I just don't want to help them in that way anymore. It just, it doesn't do it for you. And hopefully you have the means to be able to change that. My, being alive is fucking expensive. And I know that for some folks, it's not.
You know, work is about getting a paycheck so that they can pay the bills and good on you if that's your situation, good on you for providing in the way that you can. Good on you. My advice, if you're looking for any is, and I think that demographic maybe doesn't need this advice, but if you do happen to be looking for that advice, it's help who you want in whatever way you can.
Just make sure you help whoever you can. And that could be like going to a friend's show, or like calling your mom. You know, social media would have us believe that it needs to be some grand fucking gesture that spans continents and impacts thousands, and that's Not at all true. It all matters. It all makes a difference.
It is all important, both to the recipient and to the giver and you helping people helps you keep going, keeps your heart soft. I keep thinking back. I had that conversation with Dr. J Pop beginning of the event of last year. I don't know. And she was just like, The entire world is your neighbor, right?
Everybody is your neighbor. When you start thinking about it like that, it's not that you have to help everyone. If you don't, you're bad. It's that anyone who you help makes a difference. There's two ways we can look at it. And I choose to look at it from the latter, that it all matters. It all makes a difference.
On the other side of this is the folks who maybe feel some type of way about their work. And you do have the ability to change it. You do have the ability to help someone else, help people in a different way. Let's fucking go, y'all. Help whoever you want, in whatever way you can. Just make sure you help whoever you can, in whatever way you want.
So, I'm gonna wrap it up here. I'm loving these little short episodes. What am I doing with the time that I'm getting back by only putting out one episode? I don't know. The time, y'all know. Work expands to fill the time allotted. Parkinson's Law is real, and, I don't know what I'm doing. I stayed up late working on mafia stuff, stayed up.
I stayed up till 3:00 AM yesterday working on mafia stuff. I'm a late, I'm a night owl. Through and through. I always have been. I'd love to shift my whole night out way. Uh, so that's what I've been doing is staying up late and sleeping in, uh, so that I still get my seven or so hours of sleep. Uh, but speaking about mafia and working on it, uh, quick reminder, come to the Mafia Dinner next Wednesday.
It's Wednesday, January 29th, 4:00 PM Pacific. 100 percent free. Uh, yes, I'm going to offer you extend the invite to join the mafia, but you don't fucking have to. All right. I think that with each passing day, we see the value of community. And if you're looking for that community in the online space, we would love to have you come check out the family.
Yes. The marketable deliverable there is that. We will provide you, I will provide you with an education about online business and you will abso fucking lutely learn the ins and outs of online business, obviously through our lens and our values, but given the message of this episode, uh, and what I truly most, most really care about and how I like helping people, uh, it is the group of people that make up the family.
That is the magic. And that is what I want you to come experience. And we would love to have you come hang out with us. So if you've wondered about the mafia or you're just nosy, come hang out. Next Wednesday, January 29th, Wednesday, again, I said it twice, 4 p. m. Pacific. They usually run about two hours.
I'll stay on until the last question is answered. I have a curriculum that I'm gonna go through. Um, check out the registration page. It's all there. It's very short. You head to themovementmyshow. com forward slash mafia dash dinner dash reservation. We'd love to have you. Alright? Alright, that's all I got for you.
As always, endlessly, endlessly, Endlessly appreciative for every single one of you. Until next time friends, Maestro out.
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