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Hello, hello, hello my podcast people and thank you for joining me for yet another episode of my favorite podcast. Right off the bat, it is hot in here. Hot in here. Nelly style, hot in herre. I closed the window so I can record. I also put the heater on before I record, uh, so that it heats up the room. One of the things that happens is heat will travel, uh, heat sound will travel faster in the heat, but travels farther in the cold.
Uh, so I tend to get more bouncing of the sound around when the room is cold. So I heat it up and it definitely makes it less echoy, but fuck, it's hot. If you're watching the video, you see I got like a rosy little cheeks here cause it's hot. This is also the second episode. You know I'm on batching life.
I just finished the one before it. So we get a little outfit change. Second episode. I'm telling you all my secrets. But today we were talking about the fact that many of us use that phrase, oh, it'll slow down next week. Things will slow down next week, and then I'll do X. And we know, you and I both know, we all know, it's not true. Life never slows down. That is what we are talking about today. The fact that life never slows down.
There's a meme that goes around, it circulates and we all laugh and I think we're crying on the inside. Uh, cuz it's true. But the meme says adulthood is saying, but after this week, things will slow down a bit, over and over until you die.
It's the truth. No lies here. No lies detected. I recently, so last week I hosted my hosted the second live event, um, for this current round of Legacy. Uh, Legacy is the six month online group coaching program that Jillfit and I run, my business bestie and my life bestie, um, Jillfit, we run for intermediate plus online biz owners.
Um, our promise is you will have your biggest launch if you do Legacy. Um, but the main focus and one of the things that you will walk away from Legacy with is a significant reduction in the uncertainty of online business. Right. Online business does not have to be uncertain at all. Uh, and we will teach you the strategies and the systems and make things more a bit more formulaic so you are not just guessing.
And by no means should you ever be crying in your business and just living that stressed out life. So we were gonna launch, um, we'll launch that again. That's a little soft plug I guess for Legacy. We're gonna launch it again round four. Uh, this October, October, 2023, if you want to put your name on the interest list, you'll be the first to hear about it.
We do limit the spots, um, but it's not based on first come, first serve or anything like that. We do applications. Also, if you wanna be the first to hear about it, link is in the show notes and, uh, you can add your name to the interest list there.
But, we had the live event, the second live event this, this past week, and Jillfit and I are very similar in that we're always focused on simply completing the immediate task, the task at hand, and then it's on the next thing.
I am never one to be worried about a presentation or whatever that I have three months from now. I will worry about that three days before that presentation. If that's not how you live your life, that's totally fine. This episode is not about trying to get you to change how far in advance you prepare for things.
This episode is about the fact that that, that that event is done and now I am back to my regular, regular scheduling, regularly scheduled programming, which is still busy, right? So if I was to be like, oh, well I'll do all those things, like I just gotta get through the Li Legacy live event, and then I'll have time.
No. The first part of that statement of like, I just gotta get through the Legacy Live event, yes. That is how I approached it. I just gotta get through that. That's my focus, and then I can worry about other things. But I would be lying to myself if I said, I just gotta get through that event and then things will calm down.
Not at all. I am literally back to doing everything. The day after it, I was back to doing everything. And honestly, during Legacy, I was still doing a lot of things and, you know, posting and, and showing up on social and things like that.
The thing to consider here is that the event no longer takes up mental space, which is maybe what people are thinking about. Like, oh, okay, well things done and now I have that real estate back, but it just goes back and something else fills it in, right? There's always something that that will fill it in.
I, I can say with full certainty that all of us have said, at some point, maybe you're still saying this, I'll do X when things slow down. The reality, again, life never slows down, at least not of its own accord, right? It needs an intervention from you. You finish one thing and the next thing pops up.
Especially if y'all have kids, like life never slows down. So the point of today's episode is that I want to address that phrase, the phrase that we all say to ourselves. I'll, I'll put myself in there cause it's something that I used to, I used to say a lot more, and now I, I don't. Um, but I, I will put myself in there.
I wanna address the phrase that we say to ourselves and perhaps give some tough love if you listening to this are wanting a change, but you continue to be waiting for things to slow down. Remember, life never slows down, at least not on its own. You will never find the time that you're looking for. You have to steal it from something else.
Y'all know I am all about time management and batching. I love that stuff. Maybe I'll bring back another episode. I put a little poll out on Instagram about, not a poll, question box on Instagram: What do you wanna hear more of? And someone wrote about that, that they're like, I love when you talk about time management, batching, things like that.
I love it. Um, I, I, I've done a few, um, so maybe you can drop those, Courtney. There's at least two that I've done, but maybe I'll bring up another one when I'm, when I'm bored. But, I love time management. I love batching. I love talking about time management and organizing one's schedule, and something that I teach my clients to do is, is this idea of creating a would be nice to get to at some point list.
I know that's a long title. It is what it is. Would be nice to get to at some point lists. In general, most people's to-do lists are just too damn long. This is especially the case or particularly the case if you beat yourself up about not completing all the tasks on the list. I did an episode, I'm certain, and I'll just, I'll probably make another one, but I did an episode where I talked about this.
Your best bet, you gotta make your list shorter and put things on there that you know you can get done. That's it. And then it's done and you go onto the next day. The would be nice to have, would be nice to get done at, would be nice to get to at some point list. Sorry. The would be nice to get to at some point list is very helpful for e in general for tasks, but more specifically for this episode, for business tasks that will not move the needle right now. If you wanna extrapolate this or expand this to life and it's life tasks that are not gonna move the needle right now. The goal of creating this list is simply to stop giving these tasks mental energy and then handle them when they actually need to be handled, which may be never.
But when you put these things on the list, right, you take it outta your brain, you put it over here, I have it on my whiteboard, you can't see it, but I have a huge whiteboard over there and I have a list of things that's like, that'd be nice to do at some point. If it doesn't get done, it's okay cause they're not actually moving the needle.
But when I put them on that whiteboard over there, when I put it on this little mental list, or you can actually be like an actual list that you've written out. When I put these tasks on, that would be nice to get to at some point list, it gives these things time so that the circumstances around them can change, right?
This task as it relates to importance, its importance right now can be very different than its importance in one year and it can stay on that, it's probably been on that board over there for a year for all I know. Honestly, I haven't erased that part of the, that part of the board, right? The giving it that time can allow the quote unquote pressure to build such that it actually then makes sense to take care of it and you actually like want to take care of it, right?
That increased pressure and the circumstances changing can bring with it an increase desire to actually do the thing. Cause you're like, this is actually gonna help my business. Now this actually makes sense to do this. Right. You may also, during that time, gain a new way of dealing with it. Maybe you have just, it's a year later now you have more money in the business.
You are more comfortable with outsourcing and maybe you just hire someone, right? So maybe you have financial means, or you just aren't like holding this thing so tight and you're like, you know what? I can do that. And I can just actually pay someone to do that. I know roughly what I want it to look like, and I can just outsource it and then it gets done.
Of note, do not beat yourself up if you outsource it and it takes 15 seconds. Like, is there a lesson to be learned there? Maybe. But most of us, there's another meme that goes around that's like, I just completed a task in 15 minutes that I've been putting off for four years. I will learn nothing from this.
To me, that's fine as well. Like we do things when we want to do them. And I'm, I, part of the reason I do this episode and I'm thinking about specific clients, is that, and we're gonna get to this kinda actually, actually, you know what, I'm gonna hold it there and I'll get into this point now. So if you have something on your list, not, not that it would be nice to get to someday list.
If you have something in your life right now that you feel like you really wanna do, whether it's start exercising, change the fucking, I don't know, start an email list, change a website page. I don't know. Anything on your list that you're like, I actually do want to do this thing, but I keep putting it off.
There are three things that I want you to consider. Number one, action expresses priority. Number two, momentum creates ease. And number three, nothing changes if nothing changes.
Um, so what does that mean? Why did I bring these up? As you're looking at your list, all right, of these things of I'll do it when it slows down, but you, I actually wanna do this thing.
All right, here's three things to consider.
Number one, realizing that action expresses priority. I have, part of the reason I did this episode is that, I have plenty of clients, and it's most of the people I work with, I think it's honestly just most humans, when they wanna do that thing, it gets done. I'm thinking of a client right now who's written books and I'm like, clearly, when you want to do this thing, when it's actually a priority for you to you, you do it.
Meanwhile, this other thing you've been dragging your feet on for 5, 6, 7, 8 months, maybe you just don't wanna do it. It's not a priority to you, and that's okay. Accept it or commit to it and change it, right? You got two options there. We can look and be like, you know what? I've been talking about this thing forever.
I've been dragging my feet forever. I'm not doing it. There's a good chance that you just don't care that much about it. You don't wanna do it, and that's fine. Get rid of it, throw it out. Get it out of your brain. The flip side, if you're like, no, but I really do, it's just been difficult. Okay, then we need to take action. We need to really commit to changing it, and we're gonna get into that.
Second point to consider if you're like, I have this thing I wanna change, but I I just keep saying it, I'll do it when, when things slow down, when life slows down. Remember that momentum creates ease. That in mind it's very easy to do what you've always done.
Again, do not beat yourself up about it. You should see a kind of running theme here where acceptance is, or identifying and then accepting is, is like at the foundation of my approaches to things here. So don't beat yourself up for continuing to do this thing and just being like, why can't do this thing?
Because momentum creates ease. You've just been doing the same thing and it's easy to just keep going in that direction. What we need to do then is acknowledge that this thing that you want to do, it's not going to be easy. Yes, I just talked about that meme where it's like it took me 15 minutes to do it.
Sometimes that's the case. Sometimes it's not. Sometimes it does take a long time. Sometimes there is friction associated with it. A lot of friction associated with it. Sometimes, yes, it took 15 minutes, but like it was annoying as fuck to do. So I don't want you to think like, oh, you know, it's definitely gonna be easy.
I'd rather you go into this with some expectation management of, okay, I do wanna make this change, and guess what? It's not going to be easy. There is going to be some friction initially. It's going to require effort. It may make me uncomfortable in certain, at certain times. Accept that, acknowledge that, and then flip the script on that, understanding that because momentum creates ease, this thing that is initially difficult, it initially has friction, you will gain momentum and it too will get easier.
The third and final point here is understanding and acknowledging that nothing changes if nothing changes. If you have an item on, that would be nice to do list and you keep saying, I'm gonna do it when life slows down.
And you are like, but I actually wanna do this thing. I wanna do it. I want to do it. Then you gotta change shit. Nothing changes if nothing changes. If you want that thing you must change things. You're gonna have to cancel something. You're gonna have to move something. You're gonna have to outsource something.
You're going to have to do something differently. Remember, you are not going to find the time that you're looking for. Life will not slow down of its own accord. You have to steal that time from something else.
I'm looking at the time, super short episode. I'm not mad about it. Some of 'em have been a little bit longer recently.
Um, but this was something that was top of mind and perhaps a little tough love, or maybe not tough at all. I don't know. You're people interpret things how they want. Um, but it was top of mind. And y'all know that my whole shtick is doing the thing, getting things done. Action breeds clarity. And if you have that list, And if you've been, you know, that meme, it me. If that, if it's, if it's you and you're like, I'll do it when life slows down, I'll do it when life slows down, remember, life doesn't slow down.
If you want the thing, you're gonna have to go and get the thing. You're gonna have to go, you're going to have to go and change things. You're going to have to steal time from something else. All right. All right, all right, all right.
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I have Spotify, but I don't listen on Spotify. But, uh, if you're on Apple Podcasts, if you wanna do it on Spotify, thank you. Uh, that's amazing. So I don't know, I don't know what they're, I don't really know what the things are looking like there. Um, but it would be super helpful to me and I would just be super grateful.
I think maybe it helps people find the podcast. I don't really know, to be completely honest. I just like reading them. I just like knowing that you're listening and that you are enjoying the things that I'm doing, and that helps in, you know, encourage me, inspire me, motivate me. A little external motivation to continue showing up and doing more.
So you liked it, you loved it, you're picking up what I'm putting down, do me a solid, leave me a review, drop me some stars. Five preferably. And yeah. That's it. Alright, as always, endlessly appreciative for every single one of you. Until next time, friends, Maestro out.
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